Stop being a jerk.

So as most of you know (because I have been moaning and whining about it for months) we have moved. It is official. We are now residents in Steubenville OH. There are so many things to tell you about and pictures to show you, and I will. But not today.  Right now, I would like to talk about kindness.

Kindness is defined as : the quality of being friendly, generous and considerate.

It is something that as children, our parents taught us. It was expected and it was presumed. We were taught kindness in church and in school. It was the “Golden Rule.” “Do unto others as you would have others do unto you.” In other words, don’t be a jerk.

I spend the majority of my days with small people, so needless to say, this is a constant lesson that I am trying to teach. I am constantly reminding my kids to be nice to one another or to speak kindly to one another. It usually sounds more like, “You are not allowed to call your brother a buttcheek!” or “Stop hitting your sister with the sword!” These are lessons that my children, or actually all children should be learning. And if you are doing your job as a teacher or as a parent, if a child doesn’t follow the Golden Rule, there are consequences. There is a repercussion for the action. In our house they might have to sit in time out or do something nice for those that they offended. But they always have to apologize and try to make their wrong right.

Actions and words have consequences. There is no age limit to when you can stop being kind. You don’t turn 50 and all of the sudden you are allowed to say cruel and hurtful things to people. Nope. It doesn’t work that way.

Sadly, it has come to my attention that there are many adults that have yet to learn that lesson. (I use the word adult loosely because there is no maturity behind their words.) They sling the stones of their words without any consideration to where they may land. They give no thought to how harsh and hurtful their words are. And what is even worse…they do it from behind fake names. They are not even adult enough to stand behind their comments. There is no kindness in their words.

I know that we live in a free country and everyone is absolutely entitled to their opinion. But where is the kindness? Where is the consideration? When did it become ok to publicly mock someone based on their appearance? I don’t know about you, but I will continue to teach MY children to be kind. I will continue to teach them to be considerate of other peoples’ ¬†feelings. I will teach them to consider the weight of their words. I will remind them how badly the sting of an insult can hurt. In other words, I will teach them the Golden Rule.

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